“Machete” and “Centurion” are the two movies that are scheduled to be released shortly that geeks are most looking forward to. On the other hand, geeks show little interest in the two most mainstream movies on the list: “Going The Distance” and “The Winning Season” as shown on the Geek Anticipated Movie Index. 

Scores: Machete 96 Centurion 72 Resident Evil: Afterlife 67 The American 49 Takers 23 The Last Exorcism 22 Going The Distance 19 The Winning Season 16

Of the current releases that they’ve seen, “Scott Pilgrim vs The World”, isn’t cutting it with mainstream audiences, but it’s huge with the geek crowd. In fact, it tied for first place with “Inception” among geek moviegoers this past week, scoring an impressive 135 on the Geek Current Movie Index. 

Scores: Scott Pilgrim 135 Inception 135 Despicable Me 95 The Expendables 86 Salt 53 Dinner For Schmucks 52 The Other Guys 50 Piranha 3D 23 Vampires Suck 3 The Switch 0 Nanny McPhee Returns -4 Eat Pray Love -14 Cats And Dogs: The Revenge of Kitty Galore -16 Lottery Ticket -21 Step Up 3D -39

The scores were derived from a survey of geeks during the week ending August 26, 2010 taken by the dating and social network site Geek 2 Geek

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Dear Geek Goddess

I’m a 32 year old woman in Chicago. I’ve had my profile on Geek 2 Geek for a month now and haven’t received a single message. I look at the matches and see a lot of men who should be interested in me, but none of them has bothered to contact me. I went to the E-Cyrano site to get some tips on writing a profile, and have changed it a couple of times. Still no messages. What’s the problem?

It sounds to me like you’re afraid to take the plunge.  It’s really very simple – instead of waiting for someone to contact you, try and take the initiative and search for profiles that interest you and contact THEM!   You’re 32 years old – if you were 60 I’d attribute your fear of being forthright to your generation, but you don’t really have an excuse in your case. Geek men tend to be shy. Also, men are tired of being the ones who have to assert themselves in every situation, they’re sitting back and letting women take care of it now. 

You should realize that being a hetero female has a certain advantage for you.  You have a lot more options these days – in fact, the odds are in your favor!   So stop trying to wait for things to happen and MAKE them happen, and I think you’ll be pleasantly surprised.  Sure, you may experience lack of response, and even rejection, but that’s all a part of the game, and if you don’t try you’ll never succeed. 

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Dear Geek Goddess 

I’ve been a member of Geek 2 Geek for 6 months, and have met several guys. None of them are anything close to what I want. I read their profiles and always find something that is bothersome. They have low level jobs (most of the men on Geek 2 Geek seem to be in the computer industry as opposed to having a profession), they write poorly, or they are not good conversationalists, etc. etc. I’m interested in someone who is independent, charming, professional, and, quite honestly, good-looking.

I’m in my early 40’s, never married, and never actually had a serious relationship. I always imagined myself with a dream man who picks me up in his luxury car to go to a fancy restaurant and a show (not a movie, a live show). Instead, the guys I meet take me for pizza and a movie. My last date suggested we see “Doom”. You can see the problem.  

I’ve also had my profile on a couple of other dating sites, including the one that claims to have a scientific system for matching. Frankly I’ve had no better results there. While their profiles sound wonderful, the guys don’t measure up to their descriptions most to all of the time.

You’ve never had a serious relationship and you’re over 40?  I find that astounding.   What’s even more astounding is your vision of a “sweet sixteen” romance, where the guy comes to your house in his little red sports car and tight jeans with a bouquet of cliche red roses and takes you to the opera, where his tight jeans are found completely acceptable when paired with a “smart casual” blazer and tie.   How very 1985.  You say you want someone refined, yet you’re getting someone who thinks a gourmet meal is a cloth napkin to go with his bag of pork rinds.  

It seems like you’re just taking a date with anyone without doing much screening.  You mention three things that are important to you – job, communication and looks.   Two out of three of these characteristics can be determined before meeting anyone in person.  How do you avoid going on a date with a man who has a low level job?   Simply ask him when you begin talking.  How do you find out if a man has good communication skills?  Email first, phone next.  I agree that photographs can be deceiving.  Someone can send you a genuine picture of himself from ten years ago, 40 pounds earlier (both men and women do this, unfortunately).   But you seem like your screening process needs a bit of work.  Before you dive into a date you need to talk with him first, find out what he truly is like and then if you’re still interested, arrange a meeting.

What does your profile look like?  Is it specific to what you won’t tolerate?   While you don’t want to scare men away you also want to be clear about what it is that you want so you don’t waste your time with a complete oaf. 

- The Geek Goddess

Please send your questions about dating and relationships to gk2gkgoddess@gmail.com

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Dear Geek Goddess

I’m a 28 year old girl in Dallas. I met a great guy on the Geek 2 Geek web site. We’ve been dating now for two months, and I really think he’s the one for me. The trouble is, he’s not so sure. He still meets other women on the site and goes out with them. He says that he just wants to be sure before committing to me, but I already am sure, and have quit dating anybody else. Should I stay with him? Even though I’m not interested in anybody else, should I keep looking too?

You don’t say how many previous guys you’ve seriously dated in the past nor for that matter how many women he’s dated. Actually, if the answer to either is “only a few” or even less, then it’s probably a good idea for both of you to take this relationship slowly.

Giving him any kind of ultimatum could only create a problem. If he accedes, he will feel trapped and always wonder what else is out there. Then again, he might just decide that he’d be better off breaking up with you right now and continuing his search.

Ease off, at least for a while. Go back to Geek 2 Geek and look around a bit. Let him know you’re looking too. This keeps open the possibility that both of you will realize that you are right for each other. Yes, he may find someone else, but if that happens you weren’t right for him. And, who knows, you might just find someone else yourself!

The Geek Goddess

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Dear Geek Goddess,

I’m sure you’re busy and I know this is long so take the time you need to read it and reply. 

I’ll just tell you where I’m coming from and I bet a lot of other geeks/nerds would sympathize.  I know I’m a nerd and I’m proud.  A female friend of mine calls me a quasi-nerd.  A fitting term because I love video games, sci-fi, technology, and I’m intelligent but I enjoy seeing the sun, don’t live with my parents (in the basement or attic), don’t have a pocket protector, I have been laid, etc.

My problem is that when I try to find a match based solely on my standards I consistently come up with little to nothing.  My preferences are very rare to women (video games, sci-fi, and technology).  Ethically and morally I’m a liberal Christian (yes they do exist) but I’m not spiritual or religious.  Women, as I understand it, tend to be very spiritual and passionate.  I don’t want a woman on cigarettes or drugs, maybe just a moderate drinker.  I won’t accept fat (a doctor can declare you to be obese/unhealthy) women.  Call me shallow but I dated a large girl and I wasn’t turned on.  I have met a few girls that seemed PERFECT but they were engaged, hooked up, not interested in me, like me as a friend, etc.

We’ve all heard that “opposites attract” but that sounds like a science law.  It may apply when two people are arguing so much that it turns into some kind of natural lust reaction, as in “I hate you so much I want to f**k you.”  I’m definitely not interested in women who aren’t anything like me.

I feel like I am in the minority on EVERYTHING.

I am on 21 different dating sites including Geek 2 Geek — I counted.  I have received less than 20 replies from all sites over 4 years; most of those just stopped replying after 1-2 emails.  I’ve only met 4 of them offline and the one that went past one date was 100 miles away and didn’t respect the distance I had to drive in order to see her.

I am an intelligent, logical, and rational person.  I know that I’m fun and that people like me because I have more friends that I have time to hang out with.  If I have any enemies then I am unaware of them.  I am good looking and thin with blue eyes and a clear complexion.  I am such a great person that the only part of my life that I am unhappy with is my lack of a dating life.

I’m sure all of this sounds like a lot of “have pity on me” complaining.  I know that none of these are entirely unique to me but all of them together don’t help my confidence.  Please respond honestly and bluntly, that is the only way I’ll understand.  Any ideas or do I just have to be REALLY patient, I’d appreciate your help.

Thank you in advance for your advice,

Josh

P.S. Some advice that has helped and hurt me is David DeAngelo.   www.DoubleYourDating.com  He’s helped me by understanding how the attraction process works but hurt me because I’m always second guessing my actions and thoughts in endless logic loops.  Then David and others tell me to be confident in myself.  If being myself was the answer then I wouldn’t have had this problem in the first place.  Maybe I don’t get what David is trying to tell the guys that are unsuccessful with women.  He states that “ATTRACTION IS NOT A CHOICE” and it makes a lot of sense when I read his explanations of why women test men and why women have a reputation for being irrational.  Maybe he’s wrong but it sounds right so he’s received some of my money.

Hi Josh -

Maybe your expectations are too high. I don’t mean in terms of what kind of woman you’re looking for - everyone has the right to decide who they want to be with. If you’re not attracted to a certain type of woman, then that’s fine, don’t settle. You don’t seem shallow to me - you did date a large girl, gave it a chance, but it wasn’t for you. Perhaps your high expectations lie more in the fact that you’re expecting to find the perfect woman so fast and easily by aggressively seeking her out.

Yes, patience is a virtue, and yes, it sounds like you do need to be a little more patient. This may sound like a cop-out answer, but you mention that women have a reputation for being irrational and like to test men. Some women can sense desperation like a dog can sense fear.

You seem too eager to find the perfect woman. They know this and it’s not attractive to them. Women are weird. I know this firsthand, I’m one of them!

Also, confidence is definitely not your problem. You think that you are likeable, you say you’re attractive, you find yourself to be “such a great person”. You don’t mention how you are when you do meet a girl. My guess is a bit cocky. Perhaps a little too “in-your-face”? It seems that you want a girl to know right off the bat who you are and what you want from her. Maybe you want them to realize firsthand how great you are, or how great you think you are? Is it all about telling them what YOU want?

Dating is about that, but not right away, that’s what dating is for, to discover people. Women love talking about themselves. When you meet one that seems like she has good potential, ask her all about what she’s interested in, what she likes, dislikes, etc. Then you can decide if she measures up to your personal standards.

You say it’s rare for women to be into sci-fi, video games and technology. Since when? It’s the 21st century, and there are all sorts of women into those things nowadays. Even women who aren’t geeks. Okay, maybe the cutie ex-sorority girl in the marketing department isn’t, who asks why her printer is broken when it’s out of paper. Maybe the world isn’t swarming with them, but there are women who pride themselves on being up on technology, or who can take you in any first person shooter game.

- The Geek Goddess

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Four Stages of Life
1) You believe in Santa Claus.
2) You don’t believe in Santa Claus.
3) You are Santa Claus.
4) You look like Santa Claus.

A pessimist is a man who looks both ways
before crossing a one-way street.

Both optimists and pessimists contribute to our society.
The optimist…

It’s not generally realized that geeks (male and female) are the best catches. Americans focus on the glamour of the good-looking, the male jock and the statuesque female, and tend to make fun of second banana characters like Urkel. Yet, geeks (a.k.a. nerds, etc.) provide the opportunity to have much longer, more stable, and happy relationships. Here are the top ten reasons:

1. Geeks don’t cheat. Geeks know that the grass only seems greener on the other side. They instinctively stay devotedly loyal to their lovers through thick and thin. Their social skills are also not well developed enough to support an affair.

2. Geeks appreciate their mates. Since you are likely to be one of the first persons a geek has ever had a significant relationship with, you will be treated well. A geek knows that there aren’t a whole lot of other possibilities. Frankly, geeks aren’t quite sure how they ended up with the person they have attracted. When you date a geek, you know that geek will be yours for as long as you wish.

3. Geeks haven’t formed bad relationship habits. After years of dating other people, the socially successful have become too confident to be intimate, think of partners as being only for their self-gratification, and focus on making themselves happy. None of this is true of a geek. The lack of past romantic partners allows the geek to approach lovers with the zest of a neophyte. Geeks are not full of romantic confidence. However, once encouraged, they are eager to please and enjoy their relationship.

4. Geeks are good at the things they try. Every geek has skills passionately developed over a long period of time. It could be role playing, chess, hacking, playing video games, or the ability to properly assemble a computer. So you know that geeks won’t quit until they have learned how to make their relationship the best.

5. Geeks are not interested in status. Geeks became geeks because they chose to spend their time doing things that would not necessarily make them popular with everyone else in school, like sports and fashion. The ability to resist peer pressure is important to geeks. This means that a geek is more interested in your happiness than in looking good to others.

6. Geeks have imagination. Boredom is important to avoid to the game playing geek. A geek will seek new and creative ways to play, and this translates to relationships as well.

7. Geeks are happy and successful in their chosen field. No matter what their education level, geeks are able to make good incomes doing work that they enjoy. That eliminates one of the most frequent causes of relationship problems, since people who don’t like their jobs may take it out on their significant other.

8. Geeks are analytical. If they don’t get it right the first time, they look at what they did and figure out what to change. And when they DO get it right, they still keep finding ways to improve on it.

9. Geeks can concentrate. Geeks can focus their energy on one task with total intensity. Granted, the task they are focusing on may have more to do with writing new software for their Blackberry, but the fact remains that a geek, once set upon a task, tirelessly sets about to achieving a goal.

All of which means that…

10. Geeks want to be the best at what they do. So they try harder. And they never stop trying.

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